Barbara Hana Irovič

“When there was a wedding, the bride would ‘say goodbye to maids’ on Saturday. Then, on Sunday they went to the community authority for the wedding ceremony, and then to the church for the church ceremony. They stood in the middle of the church--that is, older people would sit in the pews and the young ones and the bride and the groom stood in the middle. Then, there was a lunch at the bride’s, and then they went to Bela Crkva to get wedding photos. Back home, they would dance in the backyard at the bride’s if it was warm. In the winter, they would dance indoors with tables spread apart to make room for dancing. In the evening they went to the groom’s, then back to the bride’s place for coffee, and then back to the groom’s for the supper, and there they would sit for hours. After midnight, they took the bride’s wreath away and put a kerchief on her head. She is no longer a maid, she is a wife now, so, on with the kerchief. Back then, no wife went about with bare head; once a woman got married, she put a kerchief on her head and never took it off again.”

“You had to go to church in the morning. Then there was lunch. After the lunch, there were prayers again, and then you went dancing. The dances went on until six or seven, depending on whether it was summer time or winter time. Then you went for a supper and came back again. One person would stay there and hold the seats for the elderly ladies. Girls would never come alone like they do these days – mum or grandma came along with the girl or boy. They would sit and watch as the young ones danced. Then they danced the kolo and sung so the musicians could have some rest. During the carnival, there was dancing in the morning, then you went home for lunch. There was dancing again in the afternoon and then you went for supper. Then you danced again until three or four in the morning. On Sundays, children danced in the afternoon and adults, girls, boys and older people danced in the evening.”